In today’s rush-rush, deadline-oriented world, we tend to take every short cut we can or even skip steps so that we have time to check one more gadget or post one more status or check one more score. But, when it comes to sex you definitely need to remember that how you start can be as important as how you finish. And foreplay is the one thing women can't get enough of –okay, there are a few other things as well, but foreplay is an important one. In general terms, women are emotional creatures, and that's why they like, enjoy, and often need, foreplay.
Unlike most men, women aren't always raring to get down to it. This is because their bodies need help conjuring the lust and lubrication required for intercourse, and their emotions dictate that they feel a sense of closeness and mutual respect with their partner. All of this can be achieved through foreplay, which will also help your lady friend feel desired by you; if you simply want to jump her bones, she'll feel like a tool or a machine designed to get you off. Now, each woman is different, and some might like to get right to it without any foreplay, but the odds are that your girl will need you to grease the wheels first.
That said, here are five foreplay tips that'll help you turn everyday frolicking into something that will have any woman you seduce begging for satisfaction.
1- Talk and tease: During foreplay, the power of suggestion (especially with some dirty talk) can be as great as the sex itself for many women. If you can describe how you want to touch her, where and with which of your body parts, she'll visualize it easily and eagerly. If you know how to have sex with her brain (it is a major sexual organ), you can bet that she'll be begging you to have sex with the rest of her in due time.
If you need to touch her while you dirty talk her during foreplay, avoid touching her breasts and vagina. Instead, focus your mouth and hands on her neck, wrists, inner thighs, lower back, and ears.
2- Get started in public: Foreplay doesn't need to be restricted to the bedroom or inside four walls. If you and your girlfriend don't start crying at the thought of public displays of affection (PDA), try doing some fun things out in the open. And by fun things, I mean such things as rubbing her breasts or respectfully patting her ass in a restaurant, kissing her passionately while having drinks at a bar or dirty dancing at a nightclub, or getting hot at the gym. Make an effort to turn her on wherever you are.
If you show her that she turns you on via PDA, when you finally do find yourselves in a private situation, the good times will lead to some carnal indulgences.
3- Strip down: Strip shows aren't just for men anymore; women have gotten wise to the idea of having men perform a dance for them. While I don't suggest you dance for her as you take off your socks or install a pole in your bedroom, I do recommend that you remove your clothes slowly (especially if you're fit). Remove your socks before you do anything; they're awkward and nothing turns a woman off faster than seeing a naked man with his socks on. Now that you're set to go, start by removing your shirt (unbutton it slowly while maintaining eye contact), then your pants and finally your underwear.
At this point, undress her just as slowly. Sit her down and remove her clothing in the same order you removed yours.
4- Use your fingers and give her oral pleasure: Once again, I have to say that every woman is different and, therefore, every woman likes to be touched differently. However, the same techniques that you may have used in high school are still effective for the majority of women. Bring your hand to her vaginal area and, with the tips of your fingers, rub her outer lips (labia majora) by spreading them apart and bringing them back together. That should start the lubrication process.
When she spreads her legs a bit, that's a clear indication that she wants you to touch her a little deeper. At this point, you can start lightly rubbing her inner lips (labia minora), and then move up to her clitoris, which you should rub in a circular motion. Some women like their clitoris to be touched gently, while others prefer a more vigorous contact. Read your girlfriend's body language for a sign of what you should do.
After a few minutes, bring your mouth to the area and, while you continue to use your fingers to play around inside her, gently suck on her clitoris to give her some great oral pleasure. If a bit more lube is needed, Sliquid tastes as good as it works.
5- Watch some sex and kiss her: Porn can be a great way to get you and your girl in the mood, provided that your girlfriend is the type who enjoys adult entertainment. Put on something that both of you can enjoy (preferably other couples having sex and something tailored to women), and lie naked with each other while you watch it. Remember that an "accidental" caress here and there is perfectly acceptable, even preferable.
Every now and then, stop watching the movie and kiss her or play with her body. Make sure to pay more attention to her than you do to the movie. As well, if you see something kinky that you'd like to try, make a comment about it and gauge her response, which will give you an indication of whether or not she's game. The idea here is to get her imagination going. An S & M beginner kit is perfect for such times, as are some beginner ideas.
And there it is. Five easy ways to drive your girl insane with foreplay. Of course, you don't have to do them all in one day. Keep things lively, fun and erotic, and she'll be incorrigible. One last time: Every woman is different and if you're attentive, you should be a success.
In today’s rush rush, deadline-oriented world, we tend to take every short cut we can or even skip steps so the we have time to check one more gadget or post one more status or check one more score. But, when it comes to sex you definitely need to remember that how you start can be as important as how you finish.
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